How to let go?
There are things that bother us sometimes. Things we can’t do anything about. We have faith in our own beliefs and we believe in others ignorance. It bothers us to not say what is on our mind. But I can’t help wondering at those moments that maybe, that other person feels that very same thing.
I have this belief. I probably have not completely understood its meaning but I am on the way I suppose. Whatever be the case, I do try to live by it. So here it goes. Nature seeks harmony. And to do so, It must set everything “right”. There can always be a number or wrongs but there is just one right. That is where the needle of the scale stops oscillating to and fro. Another thought comes to my mind when I write this. So God has had many definitions. One very common definition is that God is omniscient. Means God knows everything. Means God knows what is right. If God knows everything that is right, then God must be that point of ultimate balance. Nature seeks that balance. Hence nature seeks God. Everything that exists and does not exist tends to seek God, to be one with God, to be God. Its pretty simple. To be with someone, you have to be like him. To be a part of something, you must have its characteristics. (That should be some part of the cycle I think.)
So, the way life unfolds is pretty simple. Everything that is wrong has to be set right. With time, if you believe that something is wrong (internally or externally), it would set itself right.
Does this mean that you sit and so nothing? Of course not. Make your thoughts known. Let them be out there in the universe/multiverse (I am still struggling with the concept of a multiverse). If your thought is sustainable, it will prevail. It will be accepted when time comes. No one can push it. When people are ready to understand and to accept, they will embrace it.
When you are ready to understand and to accept, you will embrace it 
In the meantime, keep on questioning yourself. Seek the truth. The right thoughts will come in time.
Scars and Thorns
One of the Facebook discussion threads got a little interesting recently (Yes, thats THE FORUM these days.) So I wanted to document it.
So I found this quotation in a data warehousing book which goes as follows:
People who forget the past are condemned to relive itThis is the discussion that followed..
Pushkar Shanker Well said. One should never forget his or her past.
The past which made his or her present.
Tapsi Chhabra but one shud be selective as to what to rembr from one’s past.
Kriti Khurana You talk to convenience and I have never been a big fan of the idea…Many people believe that a convenient decision is the right one
Tapsi Chhabra all things shudnt be remeberd yar…the things that just hinder your present.
rembr all only if u can deal with it. Most people can’t. So then, being selective is good.
Kriti Khurana and convenient of course
Suvra Nayyar y dont u believe in convenience??
Tapsi Chhabra convenient yes. better than going mad or getting stuck with it..:)
Jaideep Singh i agree woth Tapsi…!! but u have missed out on the second part of Kriti’s status, about being condemned to relive it….!
Remembering as per convenience is gong to keep u in good humor… but there are some things u have got to keep embedded to void reliving them…
Normally, if u forget a piece of the past, u’d most likely have to relive it…!!
Kriti Khurana Haven’t you people heard about the good ol facing ur life and actions way of living?
Your walking down a beach, bare footed. There is a thorn that you step on. Your so hurt that you decide to bury it deep deep inside the sand. Trust me its going to resurface (waves come and recede )and hurt you again…If not you, someone else following your path. Why not just put the thorn in your pocket and let it remind you of other thorns on your way as well?
By the way, the foot always heals…unless you keep on probing scar and checking it over and over again
@tapsi, J: I guess you guys don’t trust yourself to deal with certain situations then. Why do you think that people who remember there past always get stuck up with it? Its a choice(Remember the thorns and not the scars). Face it, learn from it. There is no need to carry a burden and fall under its weight. Don’t live your lives in parts
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@Suvu: A life lived by convenience is way down my list. Life is wonderful as long as you play by the rules. I know many people who do live by convenience. Well most of them do. Every success is an unanticipated surprise for them. Every blow has something to do with destiny and not there own actions. They will find a 100 things to blame rather than there own selves. You can never trust such people. They are your friends as long as its convenient for them. In my books Everything is wrong with convenience
ur right KK. ideally we should deal with our past, face it and learn from it. But i’m just saying generally, it’s difficult for most people. they can’t but carry the burden unless deliberately make efforts to clean their slate. And just this one thing requires massive effort. Takes a lotta time.
But ur status statement is true. especially for mistakes. seen this in real life. U make a mistake-u forget it-life presents u with a tougher situation the next time, nudging you to learn a lesson-in case u still ignore it-a bigger and still more difficult situation till u finally learn the lesson-whatever it is.
SO yes, we shd learn from our mistakes the first time..v’ll be much bettr off…:)
Kriti Khurana :) Its usually difficult for everyone, me included. But give yourself some credit people..Everything is possible
As long as your willing to pay the price of course 
Tapsi Chhabra aah…pay the price….yes..that’s wt we usually forget..everythng comes with a price tag:P
bt thnx fr the encouragemtnt….meaningful, this one…u gave me sthng to think abt…
Jaideep Singh regarding he main topic.. Kriti, i think u nailed the bullseye with this “remember the thorn, not the scar” ….!! that basically underlines the discussion..!!
**some irrelevant details have been filtered for the sanity of my readers
Because..!
I don’t have a good enough start for this post. But this thought just hit me and I need to put it to words.
I have grown up in an environment where I have been taught to be passionate about things around me. Well that is what I decided to take from it. I am almost 22 years old now and I have noticed a change in the way I act. Things that moved me some 10 years back still move me right now. This includes things that happen around me, the environment, the state of my country, the state of this world my home, politics and basically everything. And when this happens, I decide to ACT. It takes a little more conscious effort these days. Back then it seemed to be the obvious thing to do.
As I grew up, I have seen the “adults” around me having different reactions to my “speeches” or my “actions”. Many laughed (some with understanding, others with ignorance) thinking she will grow up. She will know how things work when life happens. There were a few who even thought this is what I used to be like, when I was young. I DO NOT want to belong to these categories. I don’t want to console myself some 10 years down the line, thinking that this is what I would have done, if there were more time, more resources, more support!
It always takes an effort to keep your passions alive. It is never obvious for anyone. Please don’t focus on the words here. I don’t intend this post to be a topic of discussion. Keep it as simple as possible. Just ACT. You build the world as the world builds you
As a side note, let me just say that the people who are afraid of trash, can never be clean -they can never really clean anything up. They are just too afraid. Don’t be afraid of things-learn to face them.
Oscar Wilde said “To Live is the Rarest Thing in the World, Most People Just Exist, That’s all “. Strive to join this rare breed.
And you will be laughed at, you will be misunderstood. You will try explaining your actions to people and you will always, no matter what, be asked WHY? I have a very simple reply (for others and for you)
Because I CAN!
How Life Unfolds!
Every time life teaches me something new, I make it a point to write about it. It is basically for my own benefit.
1. Writing straightens and simplifies my line of thought and helps me gaining a clearer perspective. Its easier to string thoughts together this ways
2. I can go back to it any time I want. It reminds me of what I felt and thought at some time in my past. It very easy to recognize patterns and again get a more holistic, independent view of things.
3. It satisfies my urge to over analyze 
4. I get to hear many more opinions and thoughts this way. It is really interesting to see how things-apparently so unrelated and different, fit in so perfectly. Reading your comment and opinions, my dear readers is very enlightening! Thank You and please keep on commenting
So here is another age-old question and my opinion on it…
Over the course of time, I have taught myself to not question the things that happen in life or more precisely the way things happen in life. It is sometimes difficult to believe that everything happens for good purpose. Getting a glimpse of the larger picture is not very easy. We need answers. We need to know why!
Since I am a big fan of whites and blacks, I think in life, things are either right or wrong. The things that are right are true and things that are false are untrue. Anything untrue can’t be permanent. Anything not permanent, will sooner or later cease to exist.
Everyone lives there life by a belief system or a code. We base our decisions, our choices on this system. And the course of our life will be decided by this system as well. Of course this system is subject to change. And it does change very often. What greater can be the purpose of a life than to learn and to live, to grow! Whenever we believe or base things on something untrue or wrong, life decides to teach us a lesson. My only suggestion to everyone reading is to learn it soon. . The sooner you will, the easier will the transition be. Everything that happens in the course of your life, has something to teach you. Open your arms and greet it with the understanding that it deserves.
So if something is going wrong, be happy. Know that life is going in the right direction. It is giving you another chance!!
I want to share something I learnt from a very good story. I think most of you would have seen this movie called “Rang de Basanti”. To me this movie was not about patriotism. It was about a bunch of normal, everyday people. They had, like us, grown up with stories of valor, of courage, of achieving excellence, of attaining heights that make us celebrate glory of human nature. They thought that all this requires something extra. Something normal people like them don’t have. But when it came to doing something, they did. They didn’t even give it a second thought!
There are so many times when we say things like this is impossible for me or I can’t possibly do such a thing. But the funny thing is that we do those very things and most of the times, we do not even give it a second thought. Jab karne ki bari ati hai, Insaan kya kuch ni kar guzarta. That is how, I believe life figures out. It pushes us towards that something extra. It pushes us to become something extra ordinary. Life makes man reach the pinnacle of his potential! And there lies the glory of Human Nature.
On an ending note, I would again like to emphasize on the importance of choices in life. Everything is a choice. Our future is also a choice. As much as a choice as our present is. Live Life. Love Life. It will love you back!
Gursevak
I am sure everyone knows who guddu is, but just incase, his full name is Gursevak Singh Mayal. I used to call him Gursevak, but since hardly anyone calls him that in college, Guddu just kind of rubs off.
I remember this thing about him. I am not sure when, but it so happened, that i was just standing in front of the PG block and there he was walking, just smiling to himself. I asked him what’s the joke. And there he was, surprised. He had no clue that he was smiling. His face is that ways. And you know, its a very welcoming, happy sort of a smile. Its not that I would call him the epitome of smiling face without any reason…:)
Both of us were in the same group, in the same advisory, since our 1st year. So most of our classes were together. And the bond that forms, between people who are always faced with the same question, “To Attend a Class or to Cut it!”, is pretty much unbreakable…:P
He usually tries to get himself involved in many little projects, but I think they hardly ever reached a conclusion. Well i really hope that it doesn’t stay that ways..:). He is likely to be hooked to his phone, most of the times you see him. People have a lot to tell him. And they ask him for advice too. I have been wondering the reason for that too. I think i know that now. He just listens to you, very calmly and without being judgemental. I guess, he will be someone who misses the college, most of us all. Although he must be more busy than any of us, being a businessman and all these days…:P. I reckon he will be married before any of us too…lol
Well, just to end it all, dude, remember that bet for $50, and you still very much owe me a birthday party and I ain’t gonna forget that. Take Care boy and wish you loadsa luck for your future. Have fun and just keep on smiling…
Anoop
I have known anoop right from the beginning of college, but in very different ways. So initially he was “anoop ji”. That was in the 1st semester. I got to hear too many stories about him, with a very different perspective. Following the “anoop ji” phase was the “bhaiya” phase which also had some elements of “anoop ji” in it. The “anoop ji” phase didn’t end until some other occupation was found by its propagator. All this was followed by the “bournville” phase which was quite hilarious. And it was only towards the end of four long years in college, that I can say, the “friend” phase began.
So to sum all of this up, I would probably remember him as our very own Er. Anoopinder Singh Chahal ***** wale. I am not sure if he has a fetish for *****s. I mean how can one person manage to find so many *****s. That too when its so un common and then finding it is alright, but …… lol. Okay many full stops here. I guess I will have to keep on wondering. Its not a fixed pattern actually. He has shown interest in variations of ***** as well.
Alright, moving ahead, anoop loves telling stories. He loves listening to them too(In very graphic terms…:D). In many of the stories he himself stars as the hero(Hey, anoop, remember the one avleen, ash, and me made about you and a certain somebody..;)). He enjoys normal healthy flirting. He enjoys going out for movies as well. And then following this he does every normal thing one could expect from a guy his age. He has a religious side too.
His expectations from life are very straightforward and simple. He simply wants to live it and love it. May god bless you in your life. Make something out of it. Take care and Have fun, always
Preet
Ahhh…Where do I start about him. I have known this fellow since the very begining of college. Right from those carpentry classes.
So i can say that he is a minor flirt. He never goes for it out right. I think its about time he should change his ways and go for it outright. But yeah..a word of advice for him. Before falling for a girl, please check if she is committed or single. He seems to have a thing for all the committed ones…But i seriously hope that changes for him soon enough…:D
I think the first thing anyone will notice about him is that he is a great dresser. I mean not repeating your clothes for a fortnight, even after staying as a hostler, is a big achievment and I believe there should be a reward or something for it. . And he is not shabby about his clothes too. He kinda reminds me of my brother in this manner. I guess Librans are alike. His sense of humor is another thing that deserves a mention. He says the most wicked things in the most innocent of ways..Ohh but dude, trust me, your eyes give you away…They tell it all…
As for the things he is serious about, he won’t say much. He is a wonderful and a very committed sort of friend and I am sure all his friends love him.
Sahni, you have been a great, very helpful and sweet friend and you are great company. You know I would like to see a change in you. Try things on your own. Don’t ask for help. You know why I am saying this? Cuz you are the one who is going to get it all right. You are the one who will do the best job. Trust me. Just start on your own and you will know what you are as everyone else already knows. So go ahead. A mistake does no one any harm.
Take Care. Wish you all the luck in life. God be with you…!! Make the best of Everything!!!!
Ashish
I don’t even remember now for how long have I known him. I also don’t remember when the acquaintance started. He was the part of our “Kamra Sir” group. For the first year of college, he was stuck with a group of girls and was very sad about it. He wanted to change. I still wonder why.:P
Then came the time when everyone had to decide about bunks. Ashish was the diplomatic sort. He never encouraged bunks. And he never discouraged them either…:) Well these were the old times. He was a sudhra hua munda back in those days. With our brilliant company, he was bound to change and mend is ways ..:P:P
Recently he has taken on to talking about daaru and kudhiya and all that. He goes on and on and on. Orginally i used to think that ashmita had the best monologues but, now, hearing his, my mind has changed. He has the most ultimate things to say. Well I give credit to facebook for that. I mean what better medium to express yourself than that…right? lol. I still can;t forget that question you put up ashish. A mermaid with a fish upper and girl lower or a mermaid with a girl upper and a wish lower…lol
Well, i know i just hope that you continue with this weird sense of humor of yours. Wish you all the best in life. I know you know what you want and how to get it. Good luck. God Bless you…:)
Samir
He is our very own dilli ka munda…I mean main dilli ka munda…:P
He came into lime light as soon as he came to college. The reason being, he had complained against our very dear friend, Mr Gursevak Singh Mayal. Samir was supposedly being ragged by Guddu. Well the details of that incident are still not certain, although initially i personally thought he is some sycophantic fool who just goes and complains against his seniors without any particular reason…
But well he is nothing like that. When we asked him about the incident…his reply started as most of his replies do….”Bhai! mien batata hoon hua kya tha!”
He was exposed to GNE, especially GNE Hostel at a very tender age. He is usually found hanging out with the rest of the delhi folks which consists of juniors and seniors…Initially I also got the feeling that the girls in his batch are scared of him and his friends. I am not sure about the current scenario, but i wonder what the reason could be (I hope that I find a reply to this Samir) He is also very chatty…too chatty…a great savior on late night hours…when there is nothing much to do. He is also full of stories..interesting ones…and entertaining too. He is a sports fanatic…All things revolve around sports for him…
I word of warning though..Never ask him to plan a party. He is jinxed when it comes to parties. I should be a little more specific. He is jinxed when it comes to inviting girls to parties. Parties with just guys are a great success according to what I have heard..And people I insist that you don’t get any wrong sort of ideas from this…:D
Alright jokes apart, He is a good talker…And that is of great use when you need to get things going. Very ambitious too. Although he is a little confused about those ambitions, all of them are still ambitious. Anyhows, I wish him great success. For his future and for everything he does. Take Care. Make Life Happening!!
Jaideep
Well he is Jaideep, JD, J and known by many other things to many people. Our very own protégé in college. The first time I met this fine mechanical lad was in an interview. He was a part of the interviewees and I was a part of the interviewing panel. And as that discussion had reached Harry Potter and The Deathly hallows, I knew his future would be promising. Hence he was recruited, a unanimous decision. I might as well go a little off track and say that, this decision was solely made by the panel present that time, and no one else was there to influence the decision (or to take credit for it).
As time passed by, JD has turned into one of the most coveted member with any society in college. He works his butt off for them. Infact, now come to think of it, you don’t have to work that much J, it’s ok to not sometimes. You needn’t do everything. That said, I am proud of this boy. He is someone every senior would ask for.
He is very soft spoken person, with a very serene voice, which I personally like a lot. I doubt I have ever seen him shouting or raising his voice. You can count on him to listen to what you have to say and understand (well that’s how he makes everyone feel actually) and give good constructive advice. J
Well take care J. I expect a lot from you in the future. Best of luck with everything that you want. Stay Cool..!!
